{"id":1178,"date":"2013-11-15T02:55:18","date_gmt":"2013-11-15T02:55:18","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.coachingreallyworks.com\/?p=1178"},"modified":"2016-10-25T02:57:37","modified_gmt":"2016-10-25T09:57:37","slug":"you-are-not-the-problem-got-it","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/coachingreallyworks.com\/blog\/you-are-not-the-problem-got-it\/","title":{"rendered":"You Are Not the Problem &#8211; Got It?"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>What happened? Where did you go wrong? What&#8217;s got you thinking, &#8220;Now that&#8217;s a problem&#8221;? I know I hate the feeling, when I realize I have a problem. Why is that?<\/p>\n<p>We can get emotionally caught up, trying to figure out what&#8217;s wrong with us. I know I do. Self-talk kicks in.<\/p>\n<blockquote><p>I&#8217;m too late.<\/p>\n<p>I can&#8217;t do this after all.<\/p>\n<p>I don&#8217;t have what it takes.<\/p>\n<p>I&#8217;m such a <a title=\"The Truth About How Failure Changes Everything\" href=\"https:\/\/coachingreallyworks.com\/blog\/the-truth-about-how-failure-changes-everything\/\" target=\"_blank\">failure<\/a>.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p>Something funny started happening to me recently. My thinking has shifted, and I&#8217;m slowly starting to feel challenged and excited by problems. This didn&#8217;t come overnight.<!--more--><\/p>\n<p>I have some &#8220;big problems,&#8221; challenges really, I&#8217;m facing in my business right now, but after mulling over them (for too long in my opinion) it slowly became obvious. I&#8217;ll have to find another solution. This is a challenge to help me grow and do something new.<\/p>\n<p>Here&#8217;s the crazy thing, the problem is the problem. It&#8217;s not us! (I got this little nugget from Steven Pressfield, <a rel=\"nofollow\" title=\"Do the Work on Amazon\" href=\"http:\/\/www.amazon.com\/gp\/product\/B004PGO25O\/?tag=coachingreall-20\" target=\"_blank\"><em>Do the Work<\/em><\/a>)<\/p>\n<p>Oh I can hear you say&#8230; &#8220;How could I have been so stupid?&#8221; or &#8220;I made the wrong choice.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>You&#8217;re taking it personally. Don&#8217;t! Stop right there. I mean it!<\/p>\n<p>It was <a rel=\"nofollow\" title=\"Napoleon Hill's book Thing and Grow Rich - Amazon\" href=\"http:\/\/www.amazon.com\/gp\/product\/B001NGN2D2\/?tag=coachingreall-20\" target=\"_blank\">Hill<\/a>&nbsp;who said,<\/p>\n<blockquote><p>Every failure brings with it the seed of an equivalent success.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p>Does that make any sense? It didn&#8217;t make sense to me the first time I read it either.<\/p>\n<p>It&#8217;s simple really.<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>There&#8217;s a &#8220;problem&#8221;.<\/li>\n<li>If I let go of my emotional guilt tripping, I can find a solution.<\/li>\n<li>I just need to get to working on it with a clear head, until the solution comes.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>The magic is, often, the solution can be a wonderful new asset in the future successes of your life or business, which you may not have otherwise come across.<\/p>\n<p>Ergo, the seed of an equivalent success.<\/p>\n<p>So, let&#8217;s look at the problem scenario again.<\/p>\n<ol>\n<li>The problem is not us. The problem is the problem.<\/li>\n<li>There is a potential success in this problem.<\/li>\n<li>Work the problem into a success.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n<div class=\"fusion-fullwidth fullwidth-box fusion-builder-row-1 hundred-percent-fullwidth non-hundred-percent-height-scrolling\" style=\"background-color: rgba(255,255,255,0);background-position: center center;background-repeat: no-repeat;padding-top:0px;padding-right:0px;padding-bottom:0px;padding-left:0px;margin-bottom: 0px;margin-top: 0px;border-width: 0px 0px 0px 0px;border-color:#eae9e9;border-style:solid;\" ><div class=\"fusion-builder-row fusion-row\"><div class=\"fusion-layout-column fusion_builder_column fusion-builder-column-0 fusion_builder_column_1_1 1_1 fusion-one-full fusion-column-first fusion-column-last fusion-column-no-min-height\" style=\"margin-top:0px;margin-bottom:0px;\"><div class=\"fusion-column-wrapper fusion-flex-column-wrapper-legacy\" style=\"background-position:left top;background-repeat:no-repeat;-webkit-background-size:cover;-moz-background-size:cover;-o-background-size:cover;background-size:cover;padding: 0px 0px 0px 0px;\">[reminder]What problem suddenly showed up on your plate recently? What tips do you have for tackling a problem and finding a solution?[\/reminder]<div class=\"fusion-clearfix\"><\/div><\/div><\/div><\/div><style type=\"text\/css\">.fusion-fullwidth.fusion-builder-row-1 { overflow:visible; }<\/style><\/div>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>What happened? Where did you go wrong? What&#8217;s got you thinking, &#8220;Now that&#8217;s a problem&#8221;? I know I hate the feeling, when I realize I have a problem. Why is that? We can get emotionally caught up, trying to figure out what&#8217;s wrong with us. I know I do. Self-talk kicks in. I&#8217;m too late. 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