{"id":1644,"date":"2014-06-11T00:26:53","date_gmt":"2014-06-11T07:26:53","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.coachingreallyworks.com\/?p=1644"},"modified":"2016-10-25T02:57:07","modified_gmt":"2016-10-25T09:57:07","slug":"4-insights-on-managing-disappointment-turn-it-on-its-head","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/coachingreallyworks.com\/blog\/4-insights-on-managing-disappointment-turn-it-on-its-head\/","title":{"rendered":"4 Insights on Managing Disappointment, Turn Defeat on Its Head"},"content":{"rendered":"

“That’s what happens<\/a>, when…” “She did this, because…” “It must not have been meant to be, or else…” “Today is going to be a good day, because…”\u00a0What meaning<\/em> are you reading into what happens or doesn’t happen in your day, your week, or the last couple of months?<\/p>\n

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The brain is an advanced meaning making machine.
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Potentially disappointing situations come up in everyone’s life<\/a>, but do we really have to be disappointed<\/em>? What word is the opposite of “disappointment”. It seems many people often say, “It was great. I wasn’t disappointed.” It almost sounds like disappointment was the default. I’d say being pleased by an outcome or experience should be our expectation.<\/p>\n

How about being pleased with our disappointments?<\/p>\n

Last week, I ordered a big whiteboard on wheels for my workplace. I’ve been wanting to get a bigger whiteboard because I need it to help me in my thinking and planning processes<\/a>. I have some projects coming up, for which I need it to help me achieve\u00a0clarity and focus<\/a>. I love the space and flexibility of a big whiteboard.<\/p>\n

You can imagine my disappointment when, only the rack on wheels showed up. It turned out my assistant had not understood the details on the website clearly. So, now I have\u00a0to wait another week. Do I allow\u00a0this disappointment<\/em> to negatively affect the rest of my week or even my day? I know this seems like a small thing but these are some of the simple things<\/em> in life that can derail an entire day.<\/p>\n

Why should I let myself get down? There was an important lesson on attentiveness which may well prevent greater loss in the future.<\/h3>\n

I watched a video with Tony Robbins the other day. He talked about a time he accompanied his kids golfing. Apparently the golf coach showed him that a change of just a millimeter or two in the angle with which he was hitting the ball would make a huge difference as to where it ended up. It meant a difference of several meters off target, as it flew over the green and that difference of one millimeter grew while the ball flew through the air. (Read Awaken the Giant Within<\/a>)<\/em><\/p>\n

This quote from Robin Sharma makes this point succinctly:<\/p>\n

Your days are your life in miniature.” [Tweet this!]<\/a><\/p>\n

Robin Sharma<\/strong><\/a><\/p>\n

(Read The\u00a0Greatness\u00a0Guide<\/a>)<\/em><\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n

Our emotional state<\/a>, and the decisions we make which influence\u00a0that state, have a direct impact on the direction our life takes.<\/p>\n

Disappointments:<\/p>\n

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  1. show us where\u00a0we are at <\/strong>in life and help us know where or how we can improve.<\/li>\n
  2. help us learn to master our emotions<\/strong> and reactions, making us stronger and more resilient in the face of life’s challenges.<\/li>\n
  3. drive us to strengthen our creative thinking<\/a><\/strong> skills as we learn from them and find new creative solutions.<\/li>\n
  4. come from life to show us the way<\/strong> and be our teachers.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

    Disappointment, defeat, and failure <\/a>are stepping stones to a rich life. [Tweet this!]<\/a><\/h3>\n

    Take pleasure in discovering the good and the benefits disappointment may provide on your pathway to a successful life.<\/p>\n

    Over to you now…<\/strong><\/p>\n

    What would you add to this post?<\/p>\n[reminder]What disappointment have you had to work through recently? What tips do you have for weathering disappointing situations?[\/reminder]

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