{"id":2697,"date":"2015-05-28T00:32:48","date_gmt":"2015-05-28T07:32:48","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.coachingreallyworks.com\/?p=2697"},"modified":"2016-10-25T02:56:58","modified_gmt":"2016-10-25T09:56:58","slug":"how-to-start-living-your-new-story-today","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/coachingreallyworks.com\/blog\/how-to-start-living-your-new-story-today\/","title":{"rendered":"How To Start Living Your New Story Today"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Have you been frustrated by\u00a0people who have said, &#8220;That&#8217;s just your story.&#8221;? I didn&#8217;t really get that for a long time. My answer has always been, &#8220;Well that&#8217;s what really happened.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>That comment often comes up\u00a0in a situation where there&#8217;s a problem, or difference of opinion with another person. But what about\u00a0the story you&#8217;re telling yourself about who you are and what you are capable of? It really is just your story and it can be changed.<\/p>\n<h2>In this Video:<\/h2>\n<p>00:38 &#8211; Why\u00a0You Keep Reliving Your Past by What You Say<br \/>\n00:50 &#8211;\u00a0When Do You Decide to Step off of the Curb and onto the Grass?<br \/>\n01:52 &#8211; What Have You Told Yourself Is Impossible For You?<br \/>\n02:28 &#8211; How To Start Rewriting Your Story<br \/>\n03:49 &#8211; Quote from Denis Waitley<br \/>\n04:00 &#8211; Affirmation to Help You Move Forward<\/p>\n<h2>Listen To The Audio:<\/h2>\n<div class=\"fusion-fullwidth fullwidth-box fusion-builder-row-1 hundred-percent-fullwidth non-hundred-percent-height-scrolling\" style=\"background-color: rgba(255,255,255,0);background-position: center center;background-repeat: no-repeat;padding-top:0px;padding-right:0px;padding-bottom:0px;padding-left:0px;margin-bottom: 0px;margin-top: 0px;border-width: 0px 0px 0px 0px;border-color:#eae9e9;border-style:solid;\" ><div class=\"fusion-builder-row fusion-row\"><div class=\"fusion-layout-column fusion_builder_column fusion-builder-column-0 fusion_builder_column_1_1 1_1 fusion-one-full fusion-column-first fusion-column-last fusion-column-no-min-height\" style=\"margin-top:0px;margin-bottom:0px;\"><div class=\"fusion-column-wrapper fusion-flex-column-wrapper-legacy\" style=\"background-position:left top;background-repeat:no-repeat;-webkit-background-size:cover;-moz-background-size:cover;-o-background-size:cover;background-size:cover;padding: 0px 0px 0px 0px;\">[powerpress]\n<h2>Watch The Video<\/h2>\n<p><!--more--><\/p>\n<div class=\"fusion-video fusion-youtube\" style=\"max-width:600px;max-height:360px;\"><div class=\"video-shortcode\"><div class=\"fluid-width-video-wrapper\" style=\"padding-top:60%;\" ><iframe title=\"YouTube video player 1\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/tSV1CPl2dZ0?wmode=transparent&autoplay=0\" width=\"600\" height=\"360\" allowfullscreen allow=\"autoplay; fullscreen\"><\/iframe><\/div><\/div><\/div>\n[shareable]Write a new story and let that new story define your future rather than, relive your old limited past.[\/shareable]\n<h2>Transcription:<\/h2>\n<p>Hi! I&#8217;m Abe Stone, the life design coach and this is Coaching Really Works.<\/p>\n<p>I am so glad that you are here. You are the reason that I make these videos and every time I try do one of these videos, I like to take the time to\u00a0get behind the\u00a0research and understand what it is that I am\u00a0sharing with you, so that I know it&#8217;s something really valuable.<\/p>\n<h3>How You Keep Reliving Your Past by What You Say<\/h3>\n<p>Okay, this is taking off from the last post that I did on breakthroughs, were I explained a little bit of the concept <a title=\"Check out his book on Amazon\" href=\"http:\/\/www.amazon.com\/gp\/product\/0671791540\/?tag=coachingreall-20\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"nofollow\">Tony Robbins<\/a> has built on over the years and the key aspects that are important to having breakthroughs. Go back and have a<a title=\"3 Reasons Why You Are Not Experiencing Breakthroughs\" href=\"https:\/\/coachingreallyworks.com\/blog\/3-reasons-why-you-are-not-experiencing-breakthroughs\/\"> look at the video if you want see a quick rundown of all three of them<\/a>.<\/p>\n<h3>[callout]Watch the Video:\u00a0<a title=\"3 Reasons Why You Are Not Experiencing Breakthroughs\" href=\"https:\/\/coachingreallyworks.com\/blog\/3-reasons-why-you-are-not-experiencing-breakthroughs\/\">3 Reasons Why You Are Not Experiencing Breakthroughs<\/a>[\/callout]<\/h3>\n<p>Today&#8217;s video is about story and how story is very important in our lives if want to be able to\u00a0make a\u00a0change and be able to experience the change and <a title=\"Ebook on Getting New Results\" href=\"https:\/\/coachingreallyworks.com\/blog\/email\">results that we are looking for<\/a> in our lives.<\/p>\n<h3>When Do You Decide to\u00a0Step off of the Curb and onto the Grass?<\/h3>\n<p>My eldest daughter, Julie, when she was really small,\u00a0maybe\u00a0about 2 years old, had an experience.\u00a0I am not sure about what happened or when it happened, but apparently it caused her to be afraid of walking in the yard\u00a0and stepping off the edge of the curb\u00a0and onto\u00a0the grass, so she&#8217;d walk along the sidewalk.<\/p>\n<p>She loved to go down into the grass\u00a0and\u00a0play in the grass, look at the flowers, play ball, kick the ball around. The grass was a lot of fun but she would stay on\u00a0the sidewalk because she believed that it was painful to go down into\u00a0the grass, that she could&#8217;t make\u00a0that leap.<\/p>\n<p>She would walk right up to\u00a0the edge, she would look down, she would try, she would be all frustrated.\u00a0She would stand there frozen and just turn around, go back, and do something else.<\/p>\n<p>So, I&#8217;d come along and I&#8217;d help her down\u00a0or I&#8217;d\u00a0hold her hand. The thing is that her belief kept her from being able to do\u00a0that thing that she wanted to do. Eventually she turned that belief\u00a0around just because she experienced that she could and she did it again and again.<\/p>\n<p>She did it enough times that she had a new\u00a0story. A story that said:<\/p>\n<blockquote><p><strong>I can step off of this sidewalk and I can go play in the\u00a0grass.&#8221;<\/strong><\/p><\/blockquote>\n<h3>What Have You Told Yourself Is Impossible For You?<\/h3>\n<p>That can be the same for you.<\/p>\n<p>What are the areas in your life where you are saying things\u00a0like:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>&#8220;I can&#8217;t&#8230;&#8221;<\/li>\n<li>&#8220;I am not this or that&#8230;&#8221;<\/li>\n<li>&#8220;I never do this.&#8221;<\/li>\n<li>&#8220;I never experience that&#8230;&#8221;<\/li>\n<li>&#8220;I won&#8217;t&#8230;&#8221;<\/li>\n<li>&#8220;I don&#8217;t do this.&#8221;<\/li>\n<li>&#8220;I don&#8217;t do that.&#8221;<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>Now, pay attention to those things. In some cases, maybe there&#8217;s some truth there but more often than not those are things that are <a title=\"Habits \u2026 Beliefs \u2026 and Eagles\" href=\"https:\/\/coachingreallyworks.com\/blog\/our-advantage-over-an-eagle\/\">keeping us in a box<\/a>, keeping us from living the full\u00a0life that we want to live. Especially in an area where we are looking for a breakthrough. (<i>Read <a title=\"Get Awaken the Giant Within on Amazon\" href=\"http:\/\/www.amazon.com\/gp\/product\/0671791540\/?tag=coachingreall-20\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"nofollow\">Awaken the Giant Within<\/a><\/i>)<\/p>\n<h3>How To Start Rewriting Your Story<\/h3>\n<p>So here are the\u00a0ideas\u00a0and ways that\u00a0you can reframe those and words that you can use to put those things in a positive light.<\/p>\n[shareable]It&#8217;s not about lying to yourself. Find\u00a0the things that are true in the direction that you\u00a0want to go.[\/shareable]\n<p>You can use words like:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>&#8220;I can&#8230;&#8221;<\/li>\n<li>&#8220;I do this.&#8221;<\/li>\n<li>&#8220;I commit to doing this.&#8221;<\/li>\n<li>&#8220;I am able to do this.&#8221;<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>Or simply:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>&#8220;I am this.&#8221;<\/li>\n<li>&#8220;I am that.&#8221;<\/li>\n<li>&#8220;I am a happy person.&#8221;<\/li>\n<li>&#8220;I am strong.&#8221;<\/li>\n<li>&#8220;I am healthy.&#8221;<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>It is not about lying to yourself. It&#8217;s about writing a new story and letting that new story define your future rather than <a title=\"How Leaders Break Through Limited Thinking and Get New Results\" href=\"https:\/\/coachingreallyworks.com\/blog\/how-leaders-break-through-limited-thinking-and-get-new-results\/\">reliving your old past that has kept you in limitation.<\/a><\/p>\n<hr \/>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>Now here&#8217;s your quote along these lines.<\/p>\n<blockquote>\n<h3>If you believe you can, you probably can. If you believe you won&#8217;t, you most assuredly won&#8217;t. Belief is the ignition switch that gets you off the launching pad.&#8221;<\/h3>\n<p style=\"text-align: right;\">Denis Waitley<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n<p>And now for today&#8217;s affirmation:<\/p>\n<blockquote>\n<h3>Until I question my beliefs about my story, they are just someone else&#8217;s programming. Today I consciously choose my beliefs and my story.&#8221;<\/h3>\n<\/blockquote>\n<p>I hope this video was of help to you. And I hope that you found some insight and a way of\u00a0rewriting your story and living the future and the dreams that you know you can.<\/p>\n<p>If you are watching this anywhere else, come over to CoachingReallyWorks.com, and leave your comment there. I&#8217;d love to see you there. That is where I post all these videos and and you&#8217;ll find many more on similar topics.<\/p>\n<p>It would be great to have you there.<\/p>\n<p>And please leave a comment in the comment section below, or click that like button on YouTube and give me some likes, only if you like this video of course. I&#8217;d love to hear from you.<\/p>\n<p>This is Abe Stone at CoachingReallyWorks.com<\/p>\n<p>Take Care!<div class=\"fusion-clearfix\"><\/div><\/div><\/div><\/div><style type=\"text\/css\">.fusion-fullwidth.fusion-builder-row-1 { overflow:visible; }<\/style><\/div>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Have you been frustrated by\u00a0people who have said, &#8220;That&#8217;s just your story.&#8221;? I didn&#8217;t really get that for a long time. My answer has always been, &#8220;Well that&#8217;s what really happened.&#8221; That comment often comes up\u00a0in a situation where there&#8217;s a problem, or difference of opinion with another person. 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