{"id":2783,"date":"2015-07-09T02:45:16","date_gmt":"2015-07-09T10:45:16","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.coachingreallyworks.com\/?p=2783"},"modified":"2016-10-25T02:56:37","modified_gmt":"2016-10-25T09:56:37","slug":"why-being-okay-is-actually-destroying-your-personal-growth","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/coachingreallyworks.com\/blog\/why-being-okay-is-actually-destroying-your-personal-growth\/","title":{"rendered":"Why Being Okay Is Actually Destroying Your Personal-Growth"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Being okay with our bodies is a big topic these days. Have you seen the posts with beautiful overweight women? In some cases they are praised for having strong self-esteem and being proud of the their natural body.<\/p>\n<p>I think that is great and for most part it leads to happier people and happier relationships. As a matter\u00a0personal taste I prefer women with a few curves over the thin and &#8220;perfect&#8221; types. However, could there be a downside to this blanket optimism?<\/p>\n<h2>In this Video:<\/h2>\n<p>00:34 &#8211; What One Woman Discovered working with Tony Robbins<br \/>\n01:15 &#8211; What is your\u00a0Defense Mechanism?<br \/>\n01:46 &#8211; Hot Tip for Receiving Insights<br \/>\n02:20 &#8211; When Allowing and Being Okay Is Not Okay<br \/>\n03:18 &#8211; Quote from George Washington Carver<br \/>\n03:22 &#8211; Affirmation to Help You Move Forward<\/p>\n<h2>Listen To The Audio:<\/h2>\n<div class=\"fusion-fullwidth fullwidth-box fusion-builder-row-1 hundred-percent-fullwidth non-hundred-percent-height-scrolling\" style=\"background-color: rgba(255,255,255,0);background-position: center center;background-repeat: no-repeat;padding-top:0px;padding-right:0px;padding-bottom:0px;padding-left:0px;margin-bottom: 0px;margin-top: 0px;border-width: 0px 0px 0px 0px;border-color:#eae9e9;border-style:solid;\" ><div class=\"fusion-builder-row fusion-row\"><div class=\"fusion-layout-column fusion_builder_column fusion-builder-column-0 fusion_builder_column_1_1 1_1 fusion-one-full fusion-column-first fusion-column-last fusion-column-no-min-height\" style=\"margin-top:0px;margin-bottom:0px;\"><div class=\"fusion-column-wrapper fusion-flex-column-wrapper-legacy\" style=\"background-position:left top;background-repeat:no-repeat;-webkit-background-size:cover;-moz-background-size:cover;-o-background-size:cover;background-size:cover;padding: 0px 0px 0px 0px;\">[powerpress]\n<h2>Watch The Video:<\/h2>\n<p><!--more--><\/p>\n<div class=\"fusion-video fusion-youtube\" style=\"max-width:600px;max-height:360px;\"><div class=\"video-shortcode\"><div class=\"fluid-width-video-wrapper\" style=\"padding-top:60%;\" ><iframe title=\"YouTube video player 1\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/dLeJBAQpxic?wmode=transparent&autoplay=0\" width=\"600\" height=\"360\" allowfullscreen allow=\"autoplay; fullscreen\"><\/iframe><\/div><\/div><\/div>\n<h2>Transcription:<\/h2>\n<p>Hi! Welcome to CoachingReallyWorks.com, my name is Abe Stone, I am the life design coach.<\/p>\n<p>It is great to see you here. Today I have another special insight for you.<\/p>\n<p>It is from personal experience but I think that you will find this one particularly useful and as you look at your life and as you reflect on those <a title=\"Why You Need a Crisis to Change \u2013 Or Do You?\" href=\"https:\/\/coachingreallyworks.com\/blog\/why-you-need-a-crisis-to-change-or-do-you\/\">things that have either pained you or hurt you<\/a>, or in some ways you have struggling to overcome or have a breakthrough in.<\/p>\n<h3>Some Harmful\u00a0Things Provide Us With\u00a0Good<\/h3>\n<p>I was watching Tony Robbins&#8217; series the other day and what he was having a strategic intervention on stage with a woman. He does amazing job working with people. He gets the whole crowd involved. It&#8217;s really beautiful.<\/p>\n<p>The woman discovered that she had weight problem because of certain experiences in her past and the weight became a way of sort-of loving and protecting herself. (<em>Read <a title=\"See the Book on Amazon\" href=\"http:\/\/www.amazon.com\/gp\/product\/0671791540\/?tag=coachingreall-20\" target=\"_blank\">Awaken the Giant Within<\/a><\/em>)<\/p>\n<h3>Defense Mechanisms<\/h3>\n<p>Now, I recently had experience, actually just this morning when I was working out. Maybe it wasn&#8217;t as drastic or as big of an issue as the one that I watched \u00a0but it&#8217;s a pretty big one for me.<\/p>\n<p>You probably heard me talk about wanting to lose weight, wanting to lose my gut. I have been working out for a few years. You&#8217;re probably bored of hearing about it.<\/p>\n<p>Here is the thing that happened.<\/p>\n<p>I was working out and a thought came to me:<\/p>\n<blockquote><p>Your belly has been a defense mechanism.&#8221;<\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p>I was like, &#8220;What?&#8221; I have been fine with my belly, I really don&#8217;t care. Girls like me anyway. I have been a nice guy. I had no self esteem issues over my belly.<\/p>\n<p>Then the next thought came and I realized, my belly was a way of guarding myself from failure. I have a great fear of failure than I had realized.<\/p>\n<p>I noticed it the other day and all these thoughts came together\u00a0this morning while I was working out.<\/p>\n<h4><span style=\"color: #993300;\">Hot Tip:<\/span> By the way, taking down time, working out, and recreational activities are very important in life. That is where you can have some amazing thoughts and amazing insights.<\/h4>\n<p>(<em>Read <a title=\"See the Book on Amazon\" href=\"http:\/\/www.amazon.com\/gp\/product\/1554684366\/?tag=coachingreall-20\" target=\"_blank\">The Greatness Guide<\/a><\/em>)<\/p>\n[shareable]Down time, workouts, and recreational activities provide space for you\u00a0to have amazing thoughts and insights. @Abe_Stone[\/shareable]\n<h3>Avoiding Failure?<\/h3>\n<p>Not long ago, I was at a\u00a0casual sports event with friends and there were competitions.\u00a0I had signed up to play\u00a0badminton . I love badminton. It is a really fun sport. But I didn&#8217;t want to lose, I was afraid of losing cause I was up against a really good guy.<\/p>\n<p>So I said, &#8220;Hey, do you want mine?&#8221; and I gave it to another guy.\u00a0He signed up and sure enough, he lost. Thank was what going to happen because the other guy was so good.<\/p>\n<p>I had\u00a0protected myself, you see. I have done that in my life.<\/p>\n<p>I have protected myself by allowing my belly to grow. It was my defense mechanism.<\/p>\n<p>&#8220;Well, I never intended to have a six-pack anyway. I never intended to have that. I&#8217;m okay. I&#8217;m very self confident and I have a lot of self esteem.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>That was all good. But why would I let this thing come in the way and hinder another part of my life, which is my health? My health us very important to me.<\/p>\n<p>Recently, I have been working on it and I&#8217;ve been changing it.<\/p>\n<p>What I have come to find is that what I really need to address is behind that belly, that crutch that is sort of keeping me safe. <a title=\"The Truth About How Failure Changes Everything\" href=\"https:\/\/coachingreallyworks.com\/blog\/the-truth-about-how-failure-changes-everything\/\" target=\"_blank\">It is fear of failure.<\/a><\/p>\n<p>I have got to get out and just keep trying things\u00a0and\u00a0not shrink from possible failure and challenges, and move forward in that area.<\/p>\n[shareable]Get out and just keep trying things. Don&#8217;t shrink from possible failure and challenges. @Abe_Stone[\/shareable]\n<p>That is what I am doing these days. It&#8217;s been wonderful and it&#8217;s part of the journey that I&#8217;m going through with this website and my\u00a0new book that is coming out real soon.<\/p>\n<p>Anyway, that is a little personal insight into my life and I hope it is a little help for you in some way.<\/p>\n<hr \/>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>And now for the quote for today:<\/p>\n<blockquote>\n<h3>Ninety-nine percent of the failures come from people who have the\u00a0habit of making excuses.&#8221;<\/h3>\n<p style=\"text-align: right;\">George Washington Carver<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n<p>The affirmation for today is:<\/p>\n[shareable]I let go of all excuses and embrace the life I am meant to be living. #Affirmation[\/shareable]\n<p>Wow, just get out there and embrace your life. Don&#8217;t live in the shadow. Don&#8217;t hide behind crutches. Don&#8217;t let things in your life be excuses for not being more, for not doing more.<\/p>\n<p>If you are watching this anywhere else, come over to CoachingReallyWorks.com where I have these training videos and many others, there is excellent training that I hope you find very insightful. I give you coaching insights and tips and a lot of practical life skills.<\/p>\n<p>If you are watching this video on Youtube please click the like button, or click the thumbs down button. I really don&#8217;t care, I just want to hear your reaction.<\/p>\n<p>My name is Abe Stone, I am the life design coach over at CoachingReallyWorks.com.<\/p>\n<p>Bye for now! Take Care!<div class=\"fusion-clearfix\"><\/div><\/div><\/div><\/div><style type=\"text\/css\">.fusion-fullwidth.fusion-builder-row-1 { overflow:visible; }<\/style><\/div>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Being okay with our bodies is a big topic these days. Have you seen the posts with beautiful overweight women? 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