{"id":3109,"date":"2015-12-11T08:03:40","date_gmt":"2015-12-11T16:03:40","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.coachingreallyworks.com\/?p=3109"},"modified":"2016-10-25T02:56:33","modified_gmt":"2016-10-25T09:56:33","slug":"4-keys-for-perfectionists-who-want-to-finally-be-done","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/coachingreallyworks.com\/blog\/4-keys-for-perfectionists-who-want-to-finally-be-done\/","title":{"rendered":"4 Secrets for Perfectionists Who Want To Finally Enjoy Being Done"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>A friend of mine was being a wallflower because he couldn&#8217;t dance salsa. The truth is, he was taking lessons, had been for months, and did know how to dance. Clearly a struggling perfectionist who just needed to go for it anyway.<\/p>\n<p>With a little encouragement, he was up on the dance floor doing the very thing he said he couldn&#8217;t. Perhaps little disjointed in his moves (don&#8217;t tell him I said that), but he was up there enjoying what he had been trying to get perfect, instead of\u00a0waiting to be good at it before enjoying it. What are you trying to get just right?<\/p>\n<h2><span style=\"line-height: 1.5;\">In this Video:<\/span><\/h2>\n<p>00:45 &#8211; Getting Things Right Could Lead to Failure<br \/>\n01:35 &#8211; A School That Took the Leap Though the Books Weren&#8217;t Ready<br \/>\n02:53 &#8211; I&#8217;ve Taken a Cue from Those Who&#8217;ve Gone Before Me<br \/>\n03:20 &#8211; You Could Make a Better Hamburger Than McDonald&#8217;s but Not This<br \/>\n04:40 &#8211; Go With Good Enough<br \/>\n04:55 &#8211; Focus on Growth Not Perfection<br \/>\n05:27 &#8211; Stop Playing it Safe<br \/>\n05:45 &#8211; Your Task for Today<br \/>\n06:23 &#8211; How Do You Change the Direction of Boat?<br \/>\n03:48 &#8211; Quote from &#8211; Robert Kiyosaki<br \/>\n04:15 &#8211; Affirmation to Help You Move Forward<\/p>\n<h2>Listen To The Audio:<\/h2>\n<div class=\"fusion-fullwidth fullwidth-box fusion-builder-row-1 hundred-percent-fullwidth non-hundred-percent-height-scrolling\" style=\"background-color: rgba(255,255,255,0);background-position: center center;background-repeat: no-repeat;padding-top:0px;padding-right:0px;padding-bottom:0px;padding-left:0px;margin-bottom: 0px;margin-top: 0px;border-width: 0px 0px 0px 0px;border-color:#eae9e9;border-style:solid;\" ><div class=\"fusion-builder-row fusion-row\"><div class=\"fusion-layout-column fusion_builder_column fusion-builder-column-0 fusion_builder_column_1_1 1_1 fusion-one-full fusion-column-first fusion-column-last fusion-column-no-min-height\" style=\"margin-top:0px;margin-bottom:0px;\"><div class=\"fusion-column-wrapper fusion-flex-column-wrapper-legacy\" style=\"background-position:left top;background-repeat:no-repeat;-webkit-background-size:cover;-moz-background-size:cover;-o-background-size:cover;background-size:cover;padding: 0px 0px 0px 0px;\">[powerpress]\n<h2>Watch The Video<\/h2>\n<p><!--more--><br \/>\n<iframe src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/bzyMhdTD6FE?rel=0&amp;showinfo=0\" width=\"560\" height=\"315\" frameborder=\"0\" allowfullscreen=\"allowfullscreen\"><\/iframe><\/p>\n<h2>Transcription:<\/h2>\n<p>Have you been wanting to do something for a long time?<\/p>\n<p>Is there something that maybe you have been preparing for, you\u2019ve wanted to learn, you wanted to understand it, you wanted to be able to take some steps of growth and you <strong>wanted to move forward in some direction?<\/strong><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>Maybe it has something to do with launching out and starting a business.<\/li>\n<li>Maybe you want to get married, you want to get settled down, but you haven\u2019t been able to communicate that to the one that you love, to the one that you\u2019re close to.<\/li>\n<li>Or perhaps you\u2019re in a situation where you know that you could do so much more but you\u2019re just waiting to figure out the details before you take that step.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>Now there&#8217;s nothing wrong with wanting to <strong>do the right thing<\/strong>, there\u2019s nothing wrong with wanting to <strong>do it well<\/strong> and making sure that you\u2019re understanding everything that you need to know before you get out.<\/p>\n<h3>Getting Things Right Could Lead to Failure<\/h3>\n<p>So many times we fail to take steps, we fail to grow, we fail to move forward because we\u2019re waiting for things to be perfect, for the environment to be perfect, for us to have everything figured out, for us to have everything exactly in the right place, things lined up perfectly.<\/p>\n<p>Have you heard the saying \u201cPerfect is the enemy of good\u201d? Well I will take it a step further, maybe this will help you to clarify exactly how that works.<\/p>\n[shareable cite=&#8221;Abe Stone&#8221;]Perfect is the enemy of done. #motivation #quote[\/shareable]\n<p>Now you want to be done with something and you\u2019re just waiting to get it just right. Well stop it. Stop it. Really, seriously, back off of the thing.<\/p>\n<p>I want to tell you a couple of stories. One is on a smaller scale, it\u2019s in my personal life, people that I have met and I have interacted with; another one is on a bigger scale.<\/p>\n<p>And this first one, it\u2019s very simple.<\/p>\n<h3>A School That Took the Leap Though the Books Weren&#8217;t Ready<\/h3>\n<p>There\u2019s a company that I have been working with as an English teacher and they developed a whole curriculum of English books for children and they have been growing they have been developing schools now they have several, they have a high school, they have a foreign language school, they have kindergartens and their business is going really well; they figured out the whole system side of their business.<\/p>\n<p>Now, as an inside teacher, there are some flaws in books, there are some flaws in the materials that we\u2019re working with. And it\u2019s been a little bit disappointing and I\u2019ve allowed myself to get critical and frustrated.<\/p>\n<p>But there\u2019s one thing that I noticed, they&#8217;re doing really well, they\u2019re <strong>changing a lot of live<\/strong>s, they\u2019re helping a lot of children learn English really well and they are <strong>making a lot of money<\/strong>. Now I can sit there and nitpick at all these little details about, well, they didn\u2019t quite present this well, or there is a typo here, of course in China there are going to be a lot more problems of this nature, but they are moving forward.<\/p>\n<p>They are taking action on their dreams, they are connecting with people, they are changing lives and they are getting all the money that they need to live the life that they want, that they desire and they are living their dream.<\/p>\n<p>Meanwhile other people are working for them and helping them fulfill their dream.<\/p>\n[shareable]Meanwhile other people are working for them and helping them fulfill their dream. [\/shareable]\n<h3>I&#8217;ve Taken a Cue from Those Who&#8217;ve Gone Before Me<\/h3>\n<p>Now I am moving out of that and moving into this business, with coaching and training and connecting you and\u00a0other wonderful people to ideas that can help to improve their lives and to get them to take the action that they need to do in their lives, to move forward and live their dreams.<\/p>\n<p>And I am not going to do it by waiting to get it perfect, I am going to do it by getting out there and giving you what you want and being here, being a part of the moving and the changing and the growing putting this together as I go.<\/p>\n<p>Yes, I want quality, yes I want it to be able to answer your questions, but <strong>I\u2019m not going to stop because I don\u2019t have it perfect<\/strong>.<\/p>\n[shareable cite=&#8221;Abe Stone&#8221;]Yes, I want quality, but I\u2019m not going to stop because I don\u2019t have it perfect. #motivation #quote[\/shareable]\n<h3>You Could Make a Better Hamburger Than McDonald&#8217;s but Not This<\/h3>\n<p>There\u2019s another good story that people like to use about McDonald\u2019s. Actually, it\u2019s not a story, but it\u2019s a simple question; let me ask you this very simply, can you make a better hamburger than McDonald\u2019s?<\/p>\n<p>Chances are, you probably can, most of you watching most of you watching can at least get the basic ingredients together and you know, some pre-made things, cut up some vegetables, make a nice burger, put it in some better bread, than McDonald\u2019s. It\u2019s not hard to make something better than McDonald\u2019s.<\/p>\n<p>Actually, you don\u2019t even have to be a cook to make a better burger than McDonald\u2019s, in my opinion. And so many friends that I have talked to, they are like, \u201cYeah,yeah, I could do that.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>The thing is, can you sell as many burgers as McDonald\u2019s?<\/p>\n<p>Can you make a business as strong and as prosperous as McDonald\u2019s?<\/p>\n<p>Now I am not tooting any of McDonald\u2019s virtues and I really don\u2019t go for fast food, I personally don\u2019t believe that it\u2019s healthy for us, but the point is, they are not looking for perfect, they are looking for something else.<\/p>\n<p>They are looking for businesses they are looking for expanding their capital and they use that; whatever ways, whatever decisions they do as a corporation, I don\u2019t know, I am not interested in that, but the point is, as we waiting for perfect or are we willing to go forward because we are ready?<\/p>\n<p>Now, I want to leave you with four simple steps that you can take to move forward into whatever it is that you want to do and whatever you want to do well enough to be doing it.<\/p>\n<p>Not waiting, sitting on the sidelines watching other people do it and you\u2019re just wishing you could. Okay, really, this is for you.<\/p>\n[shareable cite=&#8221;Abe Stone&#8221;]Quit waiting for perfection, sitting on the sidelines watching other people do it, while you\u2019re just wishing you could. #motivation #quote[\/shareable]\n<h3 style=\"padding-left: 30px;\">1.\u00a0Go with good enough.<\/h3>\n<p>Okay? Not good, not perfect, good enough, alright?<\/p>\n<p>Just get to good enough. That\u2019s where you need to be.<\/p>\n[shareable cite=&#8221;Abe Stone&#8221;]Go with good enough. #motivation #quote[\/shareable]\n<h3 style=\"padding-left: 30px;\">2. Shift your focus from perfection, to growth.<\/h3>\n<p>So, if you\u2019ve got good enough, and you <strong>go with it<\/strong>, your focus is on growing that good and getting it better and better, so that you are already out there, you\u2019re taking action, you\u2019re involved with whatever it is; you\u2019re moving into getting married to that wonderful person, or raising a family, or starting a business, or becoming an artist or, I don\u2019t know, if it\u2019s a hobby, whatever it is, you are involved, you\u2019re learning as you go, but you\u2019re in the game.<\/p>\n<h3 style=\"padding-left: 30px;\">3. Stop protecting yourself from mistakes.<\/h3>\n<p>Okay? You are gonna make mistakes, be okay with it. Just accept it and <strong>stop putting up defenses<\/strong> that keep you from taking action and moving forward. You just got to get in there, you just got to take action, get your hands dirty, have fun doing it and do the thing you\u2019ve been meaning to do.<\/p>\n<h3 style=\"padding-left: 30px;\">4. Take one step, take one action step in the direction of your dream today, in the direction of your goal, today not tomorrow don&#8217;t plan it for tomorrow.<\/h3>\n<p>Before the sun goes down tonight, sit down and decide, this is <strong>one thing that I can do<\/strong>.<\/p>\n<p>Maybe it\u2019s a phone call, maybe it&#8217;s a very clear plan that you need to write. I don\u2019t know. Whatever it is, but I\u2019d like the action to be more than just a plan.<\/p>\n<p>I\u2019d like you to either go get the materials you need, I\u2019d like you to pick up the phone, talk to the person make a commitment, whatever the case is, just move forward, take action today. Nothing is going to happen until you move.<\/p>\n<h3>How Do You Change the Direction of Boat?<\/h3>\n<p>I\u2019m sure you\u2019ve heard the saying that the boat has to be in motion for the rudder to take effect. You\u2019ve got a boat sitting there; it\u2019s facing the wrong way, right. So what do you do?<\/p>\n<p>That boat is just sitting there, can you turn the boat? You can&#8217;t turn the boat.<\/p>\n<p>If you want to turn the boat because you need to go that way, you\u2019ve got to start move the boat, then the rudder is going to move it, alright. Get in motion, get in action.<\/p>\n<p>So what if you are not facing the right direction? You\u2019ve got to get moving.<\/p>\n<p>Okay well I went on a rant on that one, but, here is your quote for today, and I hope that it helps to kind of put that fire under you.<\/p>\n<hr \/>\n[shareable cite=&#8221;Rober tKiyosaki&#8221; text=&#8221;If you are the kind of person who is waiting for the right thing to happen, you might wait for a long time. #quote&#8221;]If you are the kind of person who is waiting for the right thing to happen, you might wait for a long time. It\u2019s like waiting for all the traffic lights to be green for five miles before starting on the trip. #quote[\/shareable]\n<p>Now here is your affirmation for today.<\/p>\n<p>Remember,<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>grab that post- it<\/li>\n<li>write it out<\/li>\n<li>put it on your mirror,\u00a0or just get a whiteboard marker, write it on your mirror<\/li>\n<li>and look at it twice a day; maybe once when you wake up and once in the evening<\/li>\n<li>say it three times each time:<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n[shareable cite=&#8221;Abe Stone&#8221;]I release myself from the burden of striving for perfection.[\/shareable]\n[offer-box href=&#8221;http:\/\/sostartover.com&#8221; linktext=&#8221;Reminder: Have you checked out my book? I just released \u201cSo? Start Over!: Experience Clarity, Do What Matters, Live Your Dream\u201d which includes worksheets, cheatsheets, and bonus material. 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