{"id":688,"date":"2012-09-27T08:58:49","date_gmt":"2012-09-27T08:58:49","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.coachingreallyworks.com\/?p=688"},"modified":"2016-10-25T02:57:38","modified_gmt":"2016-10-25T09:57:38","slug":"a-key-ingredient-for-reaching-your-goals","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/coachingreallyworks.com\/blog\/a-key-ingredient-for-reaching-your-goals\/","title":{"rendered":"A Key Ingredient for Reaching Your Goals"},"content":{"rendered":"

A young gentleman called me a few weeks ago saying: \u201cHi Katrin is there a book you would recommend to me about success or anything of that sort?<\/em>\u201d\u00a0I thought, \u201chmm \u2018anything of that sort<\/em>\u2019 sounds rather general\u201d. Even \u2018success\u2019 sounds broad and undefined. What is success anyway? I\u2019d suppose success has as many different definitions as there are people, as for each one of us success takes on a different meaning.<\/p>\n

What does it take for you to feel successful?<\/p><\/blockquote>\n

Commonly success is referred to achieving some desired outcome or goal which allows the person to have something in their life which they value, such as more money, or position, a dream relationship, or the body shape that makes them feel attractive, or something else. Immediately they focus on figuring out what they need to DO<\/strong> in order to HAVE<\/strong> what they want. Yet a few weeks down the line, in spite of working hard to do what others advise them to, you might see them back at square one, despondently claiming \u201cnothing works\u201d.<\/p>\n

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Why wouldn\u2019t the \u201cDO\u201d always lead to the desired \u201cHAVE\u201d? \u2013 Because the \u201cDO\u201d on its own will not do much, unless \u2026 it\u2019s preceded by a very important third<\/strong> part of the equation: the \u201cBE<\/strong>\u201d, which has to do with the thinking.<\/p>\n

So going back to my Skype conversation with the young gentleman, my spontaneous answer to his question was: \u201cI would highly recommend Think and Grow Rich<\/a>, <\/strong>by Napoleon Hill<\/em>\u201d. And the reason why I recommend this book is because it deals with this first very important \u201cthinking\u201d part, which precedes the \u201cdoing\u201d.<\/p>\n

There is a good reason why it\u2019s titled \u2018THINK and Grow Rich\u2019 and not Work Hard and Grow Rich<\/em> or Get a Job and Grow Rich…
\n<\/em><\/strong>– <\/em>Robert Kiyosaki<\/a><\/p><\/blockquote>\n

\u201c…It\u2019s not what you have to ‘do’ that needs to change”, <\/em>expounds Kiyosaki, “It\u2019s first how you \u201cthink<\/strong>\u201d that needs to change. In other words, it\u2019s who you have to ‘be’ in order to ‘do’ what needs to be done. \u2026 it\u2019s not the diet that counts; it\u2019s who you have to be to follow the diet that counts \u2026 A diet will not help if your thoughts do not change.<\/em><\/p>\n

\u201cAnd when it comes to money, many people try ‘to do’ what the rich do and ‘to have’ what the rich have. \u2026 They would often buy big houses and invest in the stock market because that is what they thought the rich did. Yet, if they still thought and had the beliefs and ideas of a poor or middle-class person, and then did what the rich did, they would still wind up having what the poor and middle class have.\u201d<\/em> (selected quotations<\/a>.)<\/p>\n

Remember:<\/p>\n

\u201cIt\u2019s not what you have to ‘do’ that needs to change. It\u2019s first how you ‘think’ that needs to change. In other words, it\u2019s who you have to ‘be’<\/em> in order to ‘do’ what needs to be done.<\/strong><\/p>\n

– Rich Dad\u2019s CASHFLOW Quadrant<\/em><\/a>\u201d<\/p>\n

Therefore my conviction is that<\/p>\n

Coaching is about:<\/strong><\/p>\n