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3 Things to Remember When You Feel Like a Victim

When we I feel like a victim to circumstance or other people’s actions, I get a hopeless feeling in my gut.

“Why do things keep happening to me?” “They did it to me again.”

If “they” do something to you, the only way out of that mess is to get them to stop, right?

But that is kinda hopeless, because then something else happens and life seems to be one big string of things that happen to you.

There are three steps I know I can take to turn my situation around and they require me letting go of that “I’m-a-victim” mentality.

1. Stop playing the BLAME game.

It’s so easy to wallow in self pity and find fault in what “others did to us” or things that just “happened” to us. The problem with with blaming is that we are giving away our power to do anything about it.

2. Take RESPONSIBILITY for where you are in your life right now.

It’s simple, “Things did happen, but I chose how to respond to them and that is why I’m at this point in my life today.”

3. Take one step in the NEW DIRECTION you want your life to go.

Make it a positive action step. Find the first thing you can do something about and go after it with all your might and focus.

The habit will try to pull you back to your old victim thinking. When that happens, simply repeat the same three steps above.

As you get better at it you will find that you are no longer telling the story of a victim but you will be telling an amazing story of someone who MADE IT THROUGH adversity and came out STRONGER.

When things happen to you, hold tight to your right to CHOOSE YOUR REACTION and make a choice for yourself.

Then there will be no excuses.

[shareable cite=”Abe Stone”]I am fully competent and capable in everything that I decide to do. #affirmation[/shareable]

By |Mind and Meaning, Personal Development|
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14 Timeless Love Quotes (Images) from Rumi

I love this one! “Your task is not to seek love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.”

It must take a lifetime to learn what love is.  Sometimes I wonder if I’ve ever truly felt love.

I am yours. Don't give yourself back to me.

“I am yours. Don’t give yourself back to me.” – Rumi

Reason is powerless in the expression of love.“Reason is powerless in the expression of love.” – Rumi

Out beyond ideas of wrongdoing and rightdoing, there is a field. I will meet you there.“Out beyond ideas of wrongdoing and rightdoing, there is a field. I will meet you there.” – Rumi

My heart, so precious, I won't trade it for a thousand souls, yet your one smile takes it for free.“My heart, so precious, I won’t trade it for a thousand souls, yet your one smile takes it for free.” – Rumi

The soul of the soul of the universe is love.[shareable cite=”Rumi”]The soul of the soul of the universe is love.[/shareable]

If light is in your heart you will find your way home.“If light is in your heart you will find your way home.” – Rumi

Love is the bridge between you and everything.“Love is the bridge between you and everything.” – Rumi

Your task is not to seek love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.“Your task is not to seek love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.” – Rumi

While the mind sees only boundaries, love knows the secret way there.“While the mind sees only boundaries, love knows the secret way there.” – Rumi

Lover's don't finally meet somewhere, they're in each other all along.“Lover’s don’t finally meet somewhere, they’re in each other all along.” – Rumi

Open you hands if you want to be held.“Open your hands if you want to be held.” – Rumi

Whenever we manage to love without expectations, calculations, negotiations, we are indeed in heaven.“Whenever we manage to love without expectations, calculations, negotiations, we are indeed in heaven.” – Rumi

Love rests on no foundation. It is an endless ocean, with no beginning or end.“Love rests on no foundation. It is an endless ocean, with no beginning or end.” – Rumi

Through love thorns become roses.[shareable cite=”Rumi”]Through love thorns become roses.[/shareable]

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5 Things to Remember When You Feel Overwhelmed by Poor Health

I got hit by a cold bug that was going around last week. Wondering if I was going to make it through this one actually kept me awake one night.

I was feeling pressure because of my kids and the fact that they need me to put food on the table for them. But as my sister said, “It’s not that dramatic.”

It does feel that way sometimes. Maybe if nothing else, you’re just concerned that you won’t lose any pay and can meet your financial obligations.

Making it out the other end of feeling-pretty-miserable I realized a few things that make a DIFFERENCE.

1.  Stop pushing yourself and your body.

Chances are, being sick is your body saying, “I need a BREAK”. If you can’t get off work, try SKIPPING coffee and sugars, which push your body and drain the energy it needs to heal. Take naps and got to bed earlier, if you can.

[shareable cite=”Abe Stone”]Chances are, being sick is your body saying, ‘I need a BREAK’. [/shareable]

2.  Remember what is important in your life.

In my case I had realized I hadn’t been spending much TIME with my kids. I slowed down, played a game with them, and relaxed. They are the MOST IMPORTANT thing to me right now. You my readers high on the list as well. 😉

3. Get help.

You should see a doctor. I wasn’t that bad off and, like I said, in my case I vented my thoughts on my sister. TALK to someone. My sister’s candid reaction, “It’s not that dramatic”,  helped RELEASE THE TENSION I was feeling.

4. Hold off on important or life changing decisions.

When you’re down you often just need a BREAK from it all. Being in a low state may influence you to make the wrong decision, just because you are feeling low at the moment. Most DECISIONS CAN WAIT.

5. Give your body what it needs.

You may need to take medicine. Sometimes all you need is HEALTHY EATING. Try move vegetables and fruit! I my case I have a few additional tricks I like to use for cold and cough type illnesses: vitamin C with bioflavonoids, propolis, salt gargle, lemon and baking soda drink, and painkillers if needed.

(This post is not medical advice. It is for informational purposes only. You should consult a doctor if you are feeling sick.)

You  will get to know your body, if you pay attention and listen to the signals it gives you. The most important thing is to take care of yourself so you can have the strength and energy to keep BEING AWESOME.

[shareable cite=”Joyce Meyer”]I believe that the greatest gift you can give your family and the world is a healthy you. [/shareable]

[shareable cite=”Abe Stone”]I am grateful for the healing that is happening in my body. #affirmation[/shareable]

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5 Ways to Show Your Love This Year, So They’ll Feel It

As much as I love the fun, festivities, warmth, and smiles at Christmas, it’s not always a pleasure for everyone. One of my expat friends in China found it to be a bothersome season of parties and events he doesn’t enjoy.

Our past shapes the way we feel about things like this. A rough childhood experience may ruin something as wonderful and Christmas for some.

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How to MOVE past obstacles you feel POWERLESS to get over

It’s frustrating when something happens TO YOU, or worse yet someone DOES something to you and you’re stuck, you don’t KNOW what to do. You might not like this but it comes down to what you BELIEVE about that situation.

In the past I’ve actually been stuck for days trying to figure out what to do, because I felt that the other person had the CONTROL or the circumstances were impossible to go against.

Feeling powerless just plain sucks. So, what can you do to get past an obstacle you feel powerless to overcome?  Taking is RESPONSIBILITY is one simple way to CHANGE this belief.

Responsibility for what? Watch the video to find out.

Take care,

Abe

P.S.  I’m going strong on Instagram. Definitely join me.

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