Feeling the need to be real in our lives, be it in love, at work, with friends, or with your family can be stressful, if we are not used to opening up.
Fear is the biggest thing that stands in the way, specially if we’ve been hurt or had bad experiences after we tried to open up or be real with others in the past.
Have you found yourself thinking some of these thoughts? (more…)
Did he say, “YOU CAN’T do that. You won’t make any money that way”? Maybe she laughed when you told her how much you wanted to try something out.
Stop and consider the fact that you are on a different PATH than they are.
Sure, it may not work, if they did it… but you are not them.
Heck, they may have tried and it didn’t work.
There’s a story in which business professors Gary Hamel and C. K. Parahalad wrote about a group monkeys that had been put through an experiment.
They placed the monkeys in a room with a pole, and at the top of the pole there was bunch of bananas. Every time one of the monkeys climbed up, they sprayed it with cold water just before it reached the bananas.
Each one tried several times until they all GAVE UP.
They then replaced one of the monkeys with a monkey which had not been sprayed with water. As it climbed the pole, the other monkey, who knew about the water, pulled it down.
The new monkey eventually gave up.
Then they switched another new monkey with another one which had been sprayed. The same thing happened, but the new monkey who had come just before it joined in pulling this second monkey down.
They eventually exchanged all of the monkeys, until none of the original monkeys which had been showered with water were left in the room.
Though they DIDN’T KNOW WHY, all the monkeys would still pull down any NEW monkey which tried to go for the bananas.
Just think about it, WHO is stopping you? Remember, they may have their story but now it’s time to live your story.
Stop listening to the naysayers.
Expect to have to PERSIST past obstacles.
Go bananas! 😉
I hear you saying, “But I can’t have that (fill in the blank), because (fill in the excuse).” How about “I’m too _____ to ever be good at _____.”
Some of these beliefs about yourself are a little less logical but just as limiting. “He never listens to me.” “She’s not will to do this or that for me.” Your story could be drastically changed with some simple challenging questions.
00:25 – Limits You May Have Set and Believe
00:46 – The Sources of Learned Limitations
01:20 – Byron Katie’s Formula Passed Down to Me
01:35 – Identify It and Ask This Question
01:54 – The Challenge
02:15 – Connecting to the Effect
02:28 – A Peek at Possibility
02:40 – Ready to Believe Your Choice
03:04 – Quote from – Les Brown
03:26 – Affirmation to Move You Forward
Hey, they deserve what they have coming. Right? Feeling angry? It’s just NOT FAIR how some people mouth off and then you have to put them in their place.
Some people love getting under other people’s skin but some people are not really wanting to make people angry. I know, it can look like that sometimes and getting PAST that is not so hard, though it does take some effort. So how do you handle it, when people seem to push all your anger buttons?
00:23 – Good Communication May Be Saying Nothing At All
01:00 – How to Process Overwhelming Anger
02:00 – A Simple Tool for Quickly Processing Your Emotions
02:13 – The Temptation that Will Never Help
02:50 – Quote from – Yotam Ottolenghi
03:05 – Affirmation to Move You Forward
As an English teacher, working around children tends to put me in contact with all of their little germs. I had to put in some extra time teaching and all I could think about was not getting sick and fearing that I would, and the negative self-talk started.
Sure enough, I feared a fear and it came upon me, and I was pretty messed up. But then I remembered my secret weapon, yep positive self-talk. We have so much control and power through the mind. — A little extra garlic and vitamin treatment sure helped, too.
00:11 – He Talked His Body into Dying
01:32 – How I Impacted My Health in a Couple of Weeks
02:45 – Action Step Stop Killing Yourself
03:08 – Quote from Niurka
03:19 – Affirmation to Help You Move Forward
I was not pulling out of my repetitive life pattern, year after year, so I recently hired a coach. (Seriously, it was scaring me)
I want to give you nine insights into what I was looking for and what helped me choose the right coach in order to help you find a great coach, if that is what you are looking for at this point in your life. (I’ve been working with my coach for a month and a half as of posting this and it’s been a wonderful experience)
00:33 – To Shop Around or Not?
00:53 – Reliable Resource
01:18 – Original Coaching Philosophy
01:55 – This Goes Without Saying, Meet
02:10 – See Their Tool Box In Action
02.24 – Emotional Connection
02:53 – This is Paramount
03:15 – Does Giving Matter?
03:50 – Don’t Get off Easy
04:50 – Get Some Skin in the Game (No Bargain Basement)
06:03 – Quote from John Maxwell
06:09 – Affirmation to Help You Move Forward
Sometimes family presents us with incredible joy and sometimes we just feel stuck and in pain. Do you have a marriage situation you just can’t get out of, or are you nursing a child through an illness you just can’t beat? No one enjoys feeling stuck in life.
I remember sharing a video about a woman who lost her legs to a sudden disease. Stories like that, where a person comes through and has an amazing life, in spite of circumstances can be inspiring, but what about our own situations? – Less extreme? Perhaps, but just as challenging and possibly even more painful to live with.
00:21 – When You Just Can’t Change the Circumstances
01:11 – Using Reframing on the Other Side of the Coin
01:40 – “The Good Wife” Star With Parkinson’s Disease
03:09 – The Key To Acceptance (not resignation)
03:45 – A Guided Meditation (Release Technique)
05:47 – Quote from Michael J. Fox
05:58 – Affirmation to Help You Through Your Problems
Stress get’s a lot of blame for a crazy number of illnesses leading to death. Sounds impossible to think that what we believe about the effects of stress, could be listed as the 15th leading cause of death in America. *
That means that what people think about the effects of stress is possibly killing more people than skin cancer, HIV, and homicide. *
00:20 – Fill in the blank “This stress is _____ me.”
00:28 – Would Divorce Do this to You?
01:28 – Tony Robbins’ new book
02:03 – Dr. Kelly McGonigal’s Confession
02:35 – If You Exercise You’ll Get This
03:04 – Live Longer With This Mental Switch
03:36 – Change Your Story From a Life of 50 years to 90
04:16 – Quote from Stephen Covey
04:34 – Affirmation to Help Convert Stress
04:45 – P.S. 2 Types of People on Rollercoasters
