HAPPY, happy New Year friends! I hope you’re looking forward to 2018!
The holiday season is almost over. Hopefully you’ve done more than put on a few pounds. 😉
It’s was a good time to catch up with family and friends. It’s also a great time to GET CLEAR about what is important to you in this coming year.
Forget the idea of it being a struggle. Don’t just go and re-live last year. (more…)
When we I feel like a victim to circumstance or other people’s actions, I get a hopeless feeling in my gut.
“Why do things keep happening to me?” “They did it to me again.”
If “they” do something to you, the only way out of that mess is to get them to stop, right?
But that is kinda hopeless, because then something else happens and life seems to be one big string of things that happen to you.
There are three steps I know I can take to turn my situation around and they require me letting go of that “I’m-a-victim” mentality.
It’s so easy to wallow in self pity and find fault in what “others did to us” or things that just “happened” to us. The problem with with blaming is that we are giving away our power to do anything about it.
It’s simple, “Things did happen, but I chose how to respond to them and that is why I’m at this point in my life today.”
Make it a positive action step. Find the first thing you can do something about and go after it with all your might and focus.
The habit will try to pull you back to your old victim thinking. When that happens, simply repeat the same three steps above.
As you get better at it you will find that you are no longer telling the story of a victim but you will be telling an amazing story of someone who MADE IT THROUGH adversity and came out STRONGER.
When things happen to you, hold tight to your right to CHOOSE YOUR REACTION and make a choice for yourself.
[shareable cite=”Abe Stone”]I am fully competent and capable in everything that I decide to do. #affirmation[/shareable]
I’m often afraid and I’ve struggled with the ideas of fear, FEARLESSNESS, and courage.
I’ve always avoided saying, “be fearless” because it seems we will always EXPERIENCE fear from time to time, and if say we don’t, we are probably not being honest with ourselves. 😉
Hi friends! I hope you had a FUN week with Halloween spooks and DRESS UP parties.
This post is for everyone but I want to give a quick shout out to ANYONE who is in transition. Good luck and STAY focused.
You may remember that I’m in currently transition, moving from China to US. During this PROCESS I’ve been working very hard to keep my focus on the big picture but now the holiday is upon us already.
ALL OF US can tend to feel overwhelmed once the HOLIDAY SEASON hits. There just seems to be one event after the other with increasing demands on our TIME and WALLET.
It can be so easy to slip into AUTOPILOT and let everything and everyone else’s demands crowd out our PRIORITIES and our GOALS. Getting through the holiday’s with your integrity intact requires some focus and that focus needs to be on YOUR VISION.
How do I do that? How can YOU do that? Watch and find out.
Abe
P.S. I’m reading and awesome book called The POWER of HABIT. It’s amazing. I’ll be sharing some of the insights I’ve connected to in upcoming but if you wanna read just click here. 🙂
Did he say, “YOU CAN’T do that. You won’t make any money that way”? Maybe she laughed when you told her how much you wanted to try something out.
Stop and consider the fact that you are on a different PATH than they are.
Sure, it may not work, if they did it… but you are not them.
Heck, they may have tried and it didn’t work.
There’s a story in which business professors Gary Hamel and C. K. Parahalad wrote about a group monkeys that had been put through an experiment.
They placed the monkeys in a room with a pole, and at the top of the pole there was bunch of bananas. Every time one of the monkeys climbed up, they sprayed it with cold water just before it reached the bananas.
Each one tried several times until they all GAVE UP.
They then replaced one of the monkeys with a monkey which had not been sprayed with water. As it climbed the pole, the other monkey, who knew about the water, pulled it down.
The new monkey eventually gave up.
Then they switched another new monkey with another one which had been sprayed. The same thing happened, but the new monkey who had come just before it joined in pulling this second monkey down.
They eventually exchanged all of the monkeys, until none of the original monkeys which had been showered with water were left in the room.
Though they DIDN’T KNOW WHY, all the monkeys would still pull down any NEW monkey which tried to go for the bananas.
Just think about it, WHO is stopping you? Remember, they may have their story but now it’s time to live your story.
Stop listening to the naysayers.
Expect to have to PERSIST past obstacles.
Go bananas! 😉
Every morning I look at my exercise plan and I know I want to have a healthy, strong body when I’m older. What do you want to have in your future?
Decide, commit, and make today matter. That feeling you want in the future will be your if you chose well today.
00:15 – My Coach Got Me on This
00:40 – How Your Future Depends on One Day
01:18 – Tell Me How You Do Anything, I’ll Tell You Your Future
01:40 – A Top Basketball Coach’s Life Insight
02:24 – Quote from – John Maxwell
02:53 – Affirmation to Move You Forward
Success is not a destination. The following definition made me so happy when I first heard it years ago: “Success is the progressive realization of a worthy ideal.”
It’s being in the process, the journey that qualifies you as successful or not. To many people give up and don’t do anything because it looks to difficult.
00:18 – Is This a Guy/Girl Thing?
01:06 – It’s Starts Out With These Things You Do About Others
02:30 – Don’t Be Stingy With This One
03:13 – Use This If You’re New To Goal Setting
04:02 – Do You Know What Transformational Means?
04:22 – Quote from – Arnold H. Glasow
04:37- Affirmation to Move You Forward
