It makes me sad to see you suffer from circumstances outside of your control. I recently spent two hours on FaceTime listening to and encouraging someone I care about deeply.
What makes such situations even more challenging is, when you face circumstances because of decisions you’ve made.
Feeling stuck is normal. And it’s easy to blame others. (more…)
Audry Hepburn is quoted as saying “Nothing is impossible. The word itself says, ‘I’m possible.’” She may have a good point here.
Is it that the thing we are facing is impossible? Why are we so quick to dismiss things and simply say, “It’s impossible”? Could it be that we are secretly saying we don’t believe in ourselves.
[shareable cite=”Abe Stone”]Could it be that we are secretly saying we don’t believe in ourselves, when we say, ‘It’s impossible.'[/shareable]
What are we really saying? (more…)
I don’t ever want to hear another success or personal development quote again. When I get FRUSTRATED by seeing so many cliche quotes and sayings out there, I FEEL that way.
If I was to follow them all, I’d never DO anything.
But then, all you need is just the right one to CONNECT to exactly the results you’re looking for.
If there is one I’d have to pick, it would be:
[shareable cite=”George Addair”]’Everything you’ve ever wanted is on the OTHER SIDE of fear.'[/shareable]
Bet you anything, thing tripping you up is the word “WANT.” “I’m easy going. I don’t want anything,” would just be an excuse for not FACING your fears.
It is like that sometimes. Remember my story about rollercoasters? I didn’t WANT TO FEEL the fear of dropping and rolling.
What most people don’t realize is that there is an amazing reward when overcoming most fears. What we think we want is rarely what we DEEPLY DESIRE. It’s just beyond your fears.
[shareable cite=”Abe Stone”]What we think we want is rarely what we deeply desire. Move beyond your fears.[/shareable]
It’s hard to describe until you’ve DONE it, but the bliss of swimming effortlessly in the water, the happiness of having and raising children, the rush of riding a roller coaster, the accelerated heart rate at the moment of a first kiss are worth any fear or apprehension.
You may or may not have been interested in any of these things, but if you’re like most of, I know you’ve ENJOYED the EFFECT or you will.
Do that thing you’ve wanted to do or take up that CHALLENGE you say you don’t want. You’ll love connecting to the BLISS you’ve been missing.
[reminder]See you on the other side of fear. I’d love to hear YOUR story.[/reminder]
I love Will Smith’s story.
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[shareable]I free myself from all destructive fears and doubts. #affirmation[/shareable]
When we I feel like a victim to circumstance or other people’s actions, I get a hopeless feeling in my gut.
“Why do things keep happening to me?” “They did it to me again.”
If “they” do something to you, the only way out of that mess is to get them to stop, right?
But that is kinda hopeless, because then something else happens and life seems to be one big string of things that happen to you.
There are three steps I know I can take to turn my situation around and they require me letting go of that “I’m-a-victim” mentality.
It’s so easy to wallow in self pity and find fault in what “others did to us” or things that just “happened” to us. The problem with with blaming is that we are giving away our power to do anything about it.
It’s simple, “Things did happen, but I chose how to respond to them and that is why I’m at this point in my life today.”
Make it a positive action step. Find the first thing you can do something about and go after it with all your might and focus.
The habit will try to pull you back to your old victim thinking. When that happens, simply repeat the same three steps above.
As you get better at it you will find that you are no longer telling the story of a victim but you will be telling an amazing story of someone who MADE IT THROUGH adversity and came out STRONGER.
When things happen to you, hold tight to your right to CHOOSE YOUR REACTION and make a choice for yourself.
[shareable cite=”Abe Stone”]I am fully competent and capable in everything that I decide to do. #affirmation[/shareable]
I got hit by a cold bug that was going around last week. Wondering if I was going to make it through this one actually kept me awake one night.
I was feeling pressure because of my kids and the fact that they need me to put food on the table for them. But as my sister said, “It’s not that dramatic.”
It does feel that way sometimes. Maybe if nothing else, you’re just concerned that you won’t lose any pay and can meet your financial obligations.
Making it out the other end of feeling-pretty-miserable I realized a few things that make a DIFFERENCE.
Chances are, being sick is your body saying, “I need a BREAK”. If you can’t get off work, try SKIPPING coffee and sugars, which push your body and drain the energy it needs to heal. Take naps and got to bed earlier, if you can.
[shareable cite=”Abe Stone”]Chances are, being sick is your body saying, ‘I need a BREAK’. [/shareable]
In my case I had realized I hadn’t been spending much TIME with my kids. I slowed down, played a game with them, and relaxed. They are the MOST IMPORTANT thing to me right now. You my readers high on the list as well. 😉
You should see a doctor. I wasn’t that bad off and, like I said, in my case I vented my thoughts on my sister. TALK to someone. My sister’s candid reaction, “It’s not that dramatic”, helped RELEASE THE TENSION I was feeling.
When you’re down you often just need a BREAK from it all. Being in a low state may influence you to make the wrong decision, just because you are feeling low at the moment. Most DECISIONS CAN WAIT.
You may need to take medicine. Sometimes all you need is HEALTHY EATING. Try move vegetables and fruit! I my case I have a few additional tricks I like to use for cold and cough type illnesses: vitamin C with bioflavonoids, propolis, salt gargle, lemon and baking soda drink, and painkillers if needed.
You will get to know your body, if you pay attention and listen to the signals it gives you. The most important thing is to take care of yourself so you can have the strength and energy to keep BEING AWESOME.
[shareable cite=”Joyce Meyer”]I believe that the greatest gift you can give your family and the world is a healthy you. [/shareable]
[shareable cite=”Abe Stone”]I am grateful for the healing that is happening in my body. #affirmation[/shareable]
Asking for that raise, working through the rough times in a relationship, smiling when you feel like crying, being there for others when they don’t notice, or putting yourself out there everyday because you believe in what you are doing takes courage.
It all comes down to having the courage to be who you are and be willing to see something through because you believe in what you are doing.
Courage is going ahead in spite of fear. – Abe Stone
I’m often afraid and I’ve struggled with the ideas of fear, FEARLESSNESS, and courage.
I’ve always avoided saying, “be fearless” because it seems we will always EXPERIENCE fear from time to time, and if say we don’t, we are probably not being honest with ourselves. 😉
It’s frustrating when something happens TO YOU, or worse yet someone DOES something to you and you’re stuck, you don’t KNOW what to do. You might not like this but it comes down to what you BELIEVE about that situation.
In the past I’ve actually been stuck for days trying to figure out what to do, because I felt that the other person had the CONTROL or the circumstances were impossible to go against.
Feeling powerless just plain sucks. So, what can you do to get past an obstacle you feel powerless to overcome? Taking is RESPONSIBILITY is one simple way to CHANGE this belief.
Responsibility for what? Watch the video to find out.
Take care,
Abe
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