Relationship Advice You Probably Think You Don’t Want Now

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Hi! This is Abe Stone. Today I want to share something important. This is something that is very important to me. It is of a bit of a personal nature but here goes.

It has to do with relationships. I haven’t been very brave. I haven’t talked a lot about these things in any of my videos on this website and it is for a good reason. I found that that is a very difficult part of my life.

Messed Up but Good

I got divorced several years ago, I know I mentioned it a few times, so its kind of made me keep back from really getting into this because I feel like,

I didn’t really do that great at keeping it going. So where is my authority on this topic?”

However, there is one thing that I can share with you because when I look back at my relationship with my ex-wife, and where we are today and what happened in the past and what we have gone through.

There is something very beautiful that I find that I really like about our relationship.

Even until today, even through all the difficulties that we went through, the decisions that we have made and some of the hurt that was very painful, we are still very good friends.

We still communicate very well. We still have a very good interaction about our kids. We are respectful of each other.

Our relationship, I believe, is very healthy and our kids see that and I believe our kids really appreciate that as well.

This Shows That You Really Care About Them

I think this is the one key that has led to my success, my personal success, to be able to get to this point of my life, and I think it affects a lot of my other relationships as well, and that is:

When we really love someone, when we really care about someone, when we’re with them, we need to realize that they are an individual just like us.

[shareable cite=”Abe Stone”]We need to realize that they are an individual just like us.[/shareable]

They deserve respect.

They deserve not to be judged.

They deserve to be loved and to be cared for exactly for who they are, regardless of their decisions and their choices, whether they are going to be with you or you can really be close to them or not.

Did You Get This Backwards?

I think a lot of people they get that backwards.

If you are not close to me, if you are not with me, if I can’t have you, then you must not love me. We must not love each other. We must not care about each other.”

And I would like to encourage you to look at your relationships, look at your friendships in this new light. If this is a new light if that is the case for you and that is:

That person deserves the respect, the freedom, and the acknowledgement that you want in your life, to be who they are and to live their life without judgment and without condemnation from you.

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Here is a quote that I think really exemplifies this idea.

[shareable cite=”Dalai Lama”]Give the ones you love wings to fly, roots to come back and reasons to stay.[/shareable]

The affirmation for today is:

[shareable cite=”#affirmation”]I am a great partner. I’ve mastered the art of when to give my partner love and support and when to give them space.[/shareable]

Okay. Well that is my two cents on relationships, I hope in some way that you find it helpful.

If you are watching this somewhere else, come over to coachingreallyworks.com, I have other videos there and I am sure you will enjoy.

Please give me a thumbs up on youtube or a thumbs down if that is the case. I just love to hear from you.

This is Abe Stone at CoachingReallyWorks.com

Bye for now!