I’m thrilled to give you a peek into a coach’s toolkit today. Have you ever wondered how coaches help clients to find sure footing on the path to reaching their goals? Creating alignment in three key areas puts you on a potentially unstoppable course to achieving your desired results.
“That’s what happens, when…” “She did this, because…” “It must not have been meant to be, or else…” “Today is going to be a good day, because…” What meaning are you reading into what happens or doesn’t happen in your day, your week, or the last couple of months?
Potentially disappointing situations come up in everyone’s life, but do we really have to be disappointed? What word is the opposite of “disappointment”. It seems many people often say, “It was great. I wasn’t disappointed.” It almost sounds like disappointment was the default. I’d say being pleased by an outcome or experience should be our expectation. (more…)
“Oh, my god,” I said, clasping my head in my hands; a look of horror flooding my face. While checking in at the airport I was informed that I had messed up on some paperwork and one of my kids would miss the flight.
I had planned well, prepared way in advance, and made sure everything was in order for the international trip three of my kids would be taking to be with their mother. How could I have been so careless? Now that was a big mistake, and I felt like a huge failure. (more…)
What are those ideas we call beliefs? Some time ago I thought the only context for them was religious or spiritual. I couldn’t have been more wrong. As it turns out, we are guided by them or held back by them all throughout our lives. What we choose to believe changes everything.
I still remember how years ago, as I started out in the world of coaching, I was amazed to discover the role my beliefs had played in how my life was turning out. There are two broad categories, limiting beliefs and empowering beliefs. The challenge is in learning to recognize them. (more…)
What could happen if you finally took that leap to do the very thing you’ve been dreaming of doing? Or, maybe you’re like me and you just like things the way things are and you don’t want to know what could happen. Well, sort of? Actually, not at all.
I love how this video highlights the tension that exists as we develop and learn throughout life. To tell you the truth I was just lazy, and scared of making a mess, if I tried anything new. There you have it, that is what kept me in my “comfort zone”. (more…)
It happened. The unexpected came to pass and now you’re screwed. Really? Something happened. So what? Are you gonna go through door number one, door number two or door number three? As crazy at it may seem, you’ve simply been presented with choice.
Yes, those crazy things that come at us can be so frustrating. Problems may come from our boss or a relative, or even a complete stranger. Maybe there it’s just a failure or mistake on our part. In the end there’s nothing you or I can do about what happens.
This is the fascinating thing though, we always have a choice in how we react. Our mind is an incredible meaning machine. (more…)
I often prefer not to have to face a problem or difficulty.
Many of us shrink at the first sign of fear in our minds or hearts. We can tend to opt for the flight option in our instinctive fight or flight response. True, it is safer! Besides, what if we fail?
Our flawed thinking is that we can just skip that a failure and move on to a success. In the end the question I like to ask is:
Do I want to stay where I am, or do I want growth and change?
It was the end of a long tiring day and I got news that the Coaching Really Works website was not working on the Internet Explorer platform. I was frustrated to say the least.
I went on with my evening with my family and tried to relax and enjoy the dinner and fun and games after dinner. But there was this feeling in my chest. This together with other pressures of business were giving me a nagging, emotionally depressing feeling. I kept trying to shake it off. It wasn’t working. It just stayed. (more…)
