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Why You Need a Crisis to Change – Or Do You?

I was shocked when I read this line in a post yesterday, “Your brain isn’t just resistant to change; it’s lazy.” I thought about it a bit more and I realised, in a way, it is true.

You have an autopilot control in your brain that is well able to take you as safely as possible through life. It does this in response to the world around you and more important in alignment with the mental image you have developed of yourself and your life over your lifetime.

Last week someone I’m close to pulled back from our relationship. At first I tried to communicate but she responded with the comment, “I’m just having an off day, don’t take it personal.”

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By |Coaching, Leadership|
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4 Insights on Managing Disappointment, Turn Defeat on Its Head

“That’s what happens, when…” “She did this, because…” “It must not have been meant to be, or else…” “Today is going to be a good day, because…” What meaning are you reading into what happens or doesn’t happen in your day, your week, or the last couple of months?

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The brain is an advanced meaning making machine.
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Potentially disappointing situations come up in everyone’s life, but do we really have to be disappointed? What word is the opposite of “disappointment”. It seems many people often say, “It was great. I wasn’t disappointed.” It almost sounds like disappointment was the default. I’d say being pleased by an outcome or experience should be our expectation. (more…)

By |Goals and Dreams, Mind and Meaning|
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Forget Managing Stress, Play and Get Smarter

Check out this awesome air orchestra, and try to remember the last time you let your hair down and did something silly.

I remember, when my kids were small, one of our favorite things to do together was turn down the lights in the evening, put on some dancing music, and have a “disco night.” I think I need another dose of that. (more…)

By |Mind and Meaning, Personal Development|
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How Leaders Break Through Limited Thinking and Get New Results

Is your life running on autopilot? You deserve recognition for being able to maintain your life, family, or work at the level you have. Kudos! Now, what do you believe could be possible if you got in the driver’s seat?

Sometimes thinking is the last thing in the world you want to do. In the past, my life had largely been a reactionary one and my thinking and decisions were simply done out of necessity in order to manage events and keep my life humming in maintenance mode, following my thoughts, following other’s thoughts and ideas, following the way life happened to turn out. (more…)

By |Leadership, Mind and Meaning|
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Free Up Your Emotional Resources NOW, Think Clearer, Conquer Time Management

Some of my favorite bloggers post short, to the point, posts. What is it about those short concise posts that grabs us and keeps us going back for more? I think it comes down to time. Time is a finite commodity. When it’s gone there’s no refill.

The only time we can do anything about is now. Today, time was slipping away from me in frustration over some technical problems I was facing. A little later, when reading The Power of Now for the second time, this all changed. Here’s my take-away for you. (more…)

By |Leadership, Personal Development|
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15 Things Not To Believe, and 15 You Might Want To

What are those ideas we call beliefs? Some time ago I thought the only context for them was religious or spiritual. I couldn’t have been more wrong. As it turns out, we are guided by them or held back by them all throughout our lives. What we choose to believe changes everything.

I still remember how years ago, as I started out in the world of coaching, I was amazed to discover the role my beliefs had played in how my life was turning out. There are two broad categories, limiting beliefs and empowering beliefs. The challenge is in learning to recognize them. (more…)

By |Coaching, Mind and Meaning|
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Best Seller’s Cure For My Thought Induced Insomnia. Step 3 Was My Key

Thoughts of work or personal matters can have a way of ruining a good night sleep. Do they sometimes wake you in the middle of the night with a flutter of mental activity? At times it’s stress, then at other times interests or excitement over something you can’t wait to do.

Last night was a mixture of both for me, and now, here I am sitting at Starbucks getting a midday boost as I write this.

I had a profound experience this time. There’s a tool that I’ve used successfully in the past, but had forgotten about until last night. As I struggled to stop “thinking” I remembered, “these are my thoughts. I’m the boss.” (more…)

By |Mind and Meaning, Resources|
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